A big milestone for me - 3733 CL17 has been unlocked and is stable!
Passed 4 cycles of Memtest86 (I booted in via USB as I wanted to catch the 'worst' instability before going into windows). I'm pretty sure that this step saved me a bit as I needed to quit/change timings 3 times before I cleared Memtest.
After that TM5 1usmus - 30 Cycles cleared.
Very quick HCL to 500% (I know, I should let this go longer, but I got impatient. I'm going to do a longer run overnight just to be sure)
Also been using my PC for the last 4 hours and it's been totally fine - Discord chat, Minecraft (local multiplayer with 1 other person), watching youtube, Photoshop (basic image editing), Shotcut (a quick-ish video edit).
Power related changes:
Voltage: 1.36 - I tried 1.33, 1.34, 1.35, and none were stable. 1.36 was the magic number.
CAD_BUS: 30-20-24-24 (30 was needed to stabilize the setup).
Timing changes:
tRP: 20 -> 21 (I didn't post this one last week, but on my old settings tRP 20 worked fine).
tRAS: 39 -> 42
tRC: 66 -> 68
tWTRL: 9 -> 8 (honestly, I think this was a mistake as I thought I put 10 here, but hey it worked so great!)
tRDWR: 10 -> 8 (thanks to the relation with tRDWR and tWRRD, when I had to bring RD up, I could bring WR down)
tWRRD: 1 -> 4
tRFC: 584 -> 586 (I actually think that I misunderstood the situation and didn't 'need' to increase this, but I've not tried lowering it back yet, that said the actual n/s change is minor from 313 to 313.956, so not much change there.)
How did I get to this point?
I found this amazing spreadsheet:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1cJmhO62WHPLNKGBtsJV3BjdL-dcfJJeyhdSAoJmuzJE/edit?usp=sharing
The 'calculator' part is mostly useless as it does not support c-die at all, however, it has what I felt was a 'gift from God' - it has a section that explains what the errors on the TM5 tests relate to. So on previous versions, I got an error first on 7 (that's why I changed CAD_BUS), then on 1 (which is why I re-balanced tRFC and tWRRD - which meant that I had to change tRDWR as well.) All the other changes were made simply to boot and then clear memtest86.
Before this, I did try to get tRCDRD to 20, but there was nothing that I could do that would stabilize that, most of the time it would simply fail to POST. One time it got to the post screen but then it would lock up before begin able to load windows, so unless I find some magical settings with CAD_BUS and Voltage, I don't think my tRCDRD will go any lower than 21.
Next Steps
I want to get to 66.x n/s latency (greedy I know, but that's why I'm overclocking!)
That should be possible as I had to change quite a few of my sub-timings simply to boot, and so far I've not really done anything to optimize them.
I'm also tempted to see if tCL 16 is possible at all, but I have my doubts.